A defining moment in my life was when I chose to leave “my ex”. For those who don’t know, I dated him for over 5 years and I was happy for most of it. He proposed to me about a year before we broke up. Suddenly I was a fiance! Everyone wanted to know when the date was? Our response was “oh in two years.” Looking back that should have been the tell that neither of us really wanted to pull the trigger.
Things spiraled downward from there. Cheating occurred at various points, both parties guilty. I came to the realization that I could never forgive him. I couldn’t get past what happened and felt like I’d never get peace of mind. Before that moment though, I was fighting so hard to “save” what we had. If there is anything I regret, it was that. I wish I hadn’t overcompensated so much to “fix” things and instead saw them for what they were.
Had I not made the decision to leave I know my life would have been very different. I might have gotten married or had a kid. I know I would have stayed at my job where I was severely underpaid and not given opportunities to progress. Instead, leaving set off a domino effect of change across all aspects of my life. I found myself single, with a new job, and living in Philly. I got to meet new people and figure out how to create a life on my own. I learned how to enjoy singlehood and embrace myself for who I really am. Looking back I see this as a defining moment in my life and I’m happy with all the accomplishments I’ve made, beyond what I could have imagined.
Leave me a comment if you relate to my life-defining moment or if you want to share your own. I would love to hear from you!